What if you’ve fallen out of love already because of the incompatibilities?

You have to somehow know what you want before you even start dating. At the very least, you should at least know your deal-breakers. List down the traits you’d never ever accept even if they’re the cutest and sweetest person you’ve ever met.

  1. Addiction (drugs, alcohol…any addiction)
  2. Exclusivity (if you want to be in a monogamous relationship)
  3. Unemployment (especially if financial independence means a lot to you)

You should also, of course, go right ahead and ask if you’re compatible or not. Here are some questions that are okay to ask during the first or second date:

  1. Do you want children? When? How many?
  2. Do you want to live in the suburbs or the city?
  3. Do you want to get married?

The good thing about dating is that you can just walk away without remorse. You don’t even have to give any explanation. If you think you can’t be with them long-term, try to leave. Don’t wait for things to get better. There are other options.

If you’re in a long-term relationship

Unlike when you’re dating, you have the responsibility to make the other person aware when you’re unhappy so both of you can make necessary changes to accommodate each others’ needs. Continue reading “What if you’ve fallen out of love already because of the incompatibilities?”